tags: #publish links: [[Being and Doing]], [[Psychology]], [[Relationships Resources]] created: 2021-11-13 Sat --- # Thick and thin desires [[It is not greed that drives the world, but envy]] Where do your desires and drives come from? **Thick** desires - true, intrinsic **Thin** desires - reactive, extrinsic, peer group What to do about this? Think about who you're unconsciously competing with. Who do you *not* want to succeed? You're probably modelling *your thin desires* on their desires or success. ("Keeping up with the Joneses") Is that a direction one I actually want to go in? Do these things align with my thick desires? Would I be happy to be more like them? Pick your friends (behaviour models) and allocate your time accordingly. ("You are the sum of your five best friends") Source: [thread about the book 'Wanting' by Luke Burgess](https://twitter.com/awilkinson/status/1451256182329548802?t=HDZM9eFPWnqkvBpNIsDgUg&s=19) [[Mimetic theory]]